Names pursuit-withdrawal without blaming one partner.
Relationship self-assessment
Anxious-Avoidant Relationship Pattern
The anxious-avoidant cycle is a repeating loop: one person pursues to restore safety, the other withdraws to restore autonomy. Both moves make sense internally and still intensify the cycle.
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Routes into a test that identifies your primary pattern first.
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Common questions
Can anxious-avoidant couples work?
Sometimes, if both people can slow the cycle, communicate directly, and repair consistently.
Who is responsible for fixing it?
Both people own their moves. Pursuit and withdrawal each need a more secure replacement behavior.